3 is my new 2

I'm finding that if I find 3 alternatives, I'm much more 'right' then when I only had 2.

So here's the latest, for me.

There are things in life I can Control, I can Influence, and/or I can Accept. In my control, modified by me, out of my control.

I have lived my life (that is, my conversations inside my own head) with only Control and Accept. I'm wondering if most of life is Influence. I'm wondering if my frustrations (historically) have cycled around trying to Control what I was only supposed to Influence. Maybe I was 'deceived' by the movement/change that was happening - I thought I was controlling (poorly) when I was really just Influencing (appropriately?).